Favorites

A common question i’m asked, and one that I find terribly boring, is, “What’s your favorite (insert thing here)?” While I don’t think it’s a bad question, I find that it dances squarely on the ‘usual’, and puts me in an odd position. See, i’m not one to choose favorites, and I find it quite difficult to settle down to any one thing as being the one I prefer over all the others. Sure I have the brands I prefer, I have the names I would place more trust in that others, but picking a favorite has always been difficult for me, and it often leads to more difficult conversation that ends poorly, or in anger from the person asking me, as though I were hiding something from them. I assure you i’m not hiding anything, i’m just not into picking favorites.

The exception to this would be my future wife; rest assured, when I find a woman worth asking to be my wife, she will be my favorite person; my best friend, my confidant, my rock; my everything. I just hope she never asks me to pick a favorite moment i’ve had with her.

Daniel Dates

I’m Daniel, and i’m in the “dating world”, which I think just means that i’m interested in spending time with women I find attractive and want to be more than friends with.

Often times I find the terms people use to be a touch ambiguous, and sometimes, downright confusing. After several years in the “dating world”, i’ve come to find the terms that are tossed around make just as much sense as the people who use them, which is one of the many reasons I think it’s hard to date for me, or people like me (if any such people exist).

I’m creating this blog with the intention of using it to expand on my thoughts, feelings, and experiences in the dating world, in the hopes that my future wife will stumble across it, fall madly in love with me, and demand we meet immediately so we can begin our courtship. I’m on my way honey, i’m on my way.

Communication

Communication is a vital part of any activity involving more than one person, and it’s the medium by which we organize ourselves, or are organized, to accomplish things.

Communication is a tool I use every single day, in every part and piece of my life. Sometimes I use it to convey an idea i’m exploring, sometimes to request assistance where needed, sometimes to share my time with those I love, and sometimes to determine whether or not I want to spend time with someone.

Focusing on that last use, i’ll share this with you: if we have difficulty communicating in the first few messages, i’m checking out. What that tells me is that you don’t possess clear communication skills, and those people annoy me to no end. Now, i’m sure you can communicate just fine with the people you deal with in your everyday life, and that’s great, but I find that most people don’t communicate well on any level at or above a 6th grade education. Yes, I know, that makes me sound arrogant and condescending, but you know what? That’s ok. You can call it anything you want; I call it being real, being honest. Let’s do be honest about this, too, even brutally honest; if you and I constantly have communication issues, then what quality of life would you expect to have if you were dating me? I know I would expect a poor quality of life, and that’s not something i’m open to.

I don’t expect anyone to communicate as clearly, articulately, or logically as I do, but I do expect you to understand basic english well enough to not have to ask me to explain all of my questions. One of the questions i’ve learned to ask is, “What’s your criteria to meet?”, and i’ve been somewhat surprised at some of the answers. I’ve actually had women ask me, in response to that question, “What do you mean?”. This baffles me, because I don’t see how this could be misconstrued in the context of a conversation between two people on a dating site. In the event you ended up here, and that question confused you, let me break it down for you: I’m asking you for your criteria to meet, or by what factors you decide whether or not to meet someone you met on a dating site, so I can determine if there are any criteria I cannot meet. If I meet all of your criteria, and you meet all of mine, then it stands to reason we should meet. By the way, ladies, if you’re not willing to meet at all, please get off any site that’s designed to help people meet people; you’re just clogging up the system and wasting peoples time.

Purpose

The purpose of dating is to find someone you can spend the rest of your life with. That’s it. You don’t date to waste other people’s time. You don’t date to have someone feed your ego. You don’t date to temporarily fill a void emotionally or physically. You date to find that one person who you feel like you can spend the rest of your life with.