The purpose of dating is to find someone you can spend the rest of your life with. That’s it. You don’t date to waste other people’s time. You don’t date to have someone feed your ego. You don’t date to temporarily fill a void emotionally or physically. You date to find that one person who you feel like you can spend the rest of your life with.
This is why i’m looking to meet, not text all year…
The biggest reason I want to get to the meet and greet portion is to avoid all the hassle and confusion of texting. It’s hard to know what people mean when you’re communicating via text since it strips most emotion out of the medium, and while I can chat away without judgement, I find most women can’t (or won’t), so it’s a lot easier to just talk in person.Plus, we can learn a lot more about each other by spending time together, so let’s just meet and see if we have chemistry. 🙂
Someone asked me recently, “What does it take to keep your attention?”, and I’ve been pondering on it for a few days now. Here’s my answer:
My life with you in it has to be better than my life without you in it.
My life these days is good, and much more appreciated in light of my last relationship. I stay far away from bullshit, drama, and negative energy, so if you bring any of that to me, I’m happy to quickly cut ties and stay away.
I give my attention to the people and things that bring me joy, happiness, positive energy, peace, and comfort. So if you want my attention, bring those to me, and I’ll return the favor. 🙂
Yes, I like alliteration, almost as much as I like clear communication.
So what does, ‘Real, Raw, Ready’ mean to me? I’m glad you asked ;P
Real – I’m genuine. I don’t hide who I am, I don’t make excuses for mistakes i’ve made, and I don’t make promises I can’t keep. I say what I mean, mean what I say, and I do what I said I would do.
Raw – I tell it like it is, I don’t sugarcoat or pussyfoot, and what you see is what you get. I’d make a horrible spy! 😛
Ready – I live in a state of readiness. Ready golf, ready pool, ready to play, ready to move out, I stay ready for the next step. I’m also ready to meet new people, and start new adventures.
I’m not perfect, i’m not the greatest guy you’ll ever meet, but i’m me, and that’s all someone really wants.
Giving your time and energy is far more important in a relationship.
If you’re struggling in your relationship, trying to find the ‘I know they love me”, sit down and write out how much of their time they’ve spent with you lately. You’ll find out really fast how they feel about you.
There is nothing more decisive in a relationship than Open and Honest communication.
Those of you who have followed my journey through this blog know that I constantly talk about the importance of communication, and how vital it is to a healthy relationship. If you want to have a healthy relationship, you must practice open and honest communication all the time, every day, no excuses, no exceptions.
Both people need to be practicing, too, otherwise it won’t work!
When one person is communicating openly and honestly, the other should be listening, encouraging them to continue to share, and avoiding judgement or responsive anger. Take it all in, and let it sit for as long as it takes to get comfy in your head before you respond.
Open, honest communication is the key to a healthy relationship, to turn the key, unlock the door, and enjoy the treasure on the other side!