I hear stories all the time about someone ‘wasted their time’ on someone, whether it’s chatting, texting, dating, and it always makes me chuckle a little inside.
Just like most people, i’m not interested in wasting my time, or yours. Too many times i’ve invested my time and energy by ‘chatting’ with someone for days, weeks, even months, only to have them disappear with no reason, no notion, no understanding of why. My fix for that is, ‘minimum effort until we meet’. If you want to get to know me, come spend some time with me. If you’re not ready to meet, then read through my blog. If you’re not willing to spend time with me, then we’re all done here. 🙂
Some other ways you can avoid wasting your time, and mine, are:
Know your deal-breakers.
I’ve talked about this before, but let’s touch on it again. Deal-breakers are things/behaviors/traits/characteristics that you simply will not tolerate. For example: one of my deal-breakers is tobacco use. If a woman i’m interested in uses tobacco, then we can’t date because that’s a deal-breaker for me. There nothing you can do to change it, that’s what makes it a deal-breaker.
Figure out your criteria to meet.
Criteria to meet is what you want from a person in order to meet with them.
Mine are no deal-breakers, mutual attraction, and easy to communicate with.
So long as you don’t have any of my deal-breakers, we’re both attracted to each other, and it’s not a pain in the ass to set up a meet, we can meet. By figuring out your criteria to meet, you can save everyone a whole bunch of time and get right down to the fun part!
Dating is only as hard as you make it. So instead of making it hard for you and everyone you talk with, figure your shit out, take responsibility, and go have fun! 😀