I’m tired of wrapping up seemingly harsh truths in a soft and creamy coating; the gloves are off, and it’s about to get raw.
Nobody is interested in dating someone beneath their level. How much beneath is a matter of opinion, left to the person themselves to decide; for me, I want to be in a relationship with someone above my level, someone I can grow into.
I’m not a ‘half a person’, this isn’t about putting in ‘my half’, or 50%, it’s about finding a woman I can grow into, and old with, and I know that woman is smart, strong, sassy, and capable. She cuts through the bullshit, doesn’t waste her time on things that don’t matter, and she gets it done; all this and more takes her to a level of sexy some women can never even dream of.
Being on the same level as someone else is not about status, class, race, religion, nationality, or any other factors on a long list of things you shouldn’t hate people for, it’s about mindset. It’s about perception. It’s about attitude. It’s about how you choose to spend your time, about your personal life goal, about your professional goals, about turning dreams into plans into goals into things completed, always pushing forward, never giving up or in.
I want to say, “Don’t beat yourself up about not being on someone else’s level, just realize that this is an integral part of dating, and you get to decide what you want to do about it.” But I took the gloves off.
If you’re inclined to bitch and moan about not being on someone’s level, I present to you, “Exhibit A, whiny little brat” (that would be you, seeing yourself, in a mirror) in the case of Common Sense vs. Dating whiner.
If you’re happy where you’re at in life, then find someone else on a similar level who is also happy, and be with them. There’s nothing wrong with being comfortable at a reasonable level, and it’s even sweeter when you have someone to share that with.