It’s said that until a man finds himself, he’ll ruin every woman he’s in a relationship with, and I believe this is true because i’ve lived it.
The girls i’ve dated before were not perfect, which was great, because i’m not perfect, either. Because i’m a positive, can-do, go-get-’em kind of guy, and because i’m no longer afraid to dig deep within myself, I choose to look at what I could have done better or different in those relationships.
I see several things I could have done better, all of them things I discovered while searching deep within to find myself, to figure out who I am, what I want, and where i’m going.
This is just as important for women as it is for men; if you don’t know yourself, if you don’t know what you want, then you’ll never know if you’re the right fit, or if the person you’re interested in is what you’re looking for.
There are two sides to this coin (inherently, there are two sides to every coin, since it’s a disc).
Side 1: Know yourself, date like you mean it.
This is where i’m at in life, and I like it. I know me, my dealbreakers, my wants, my needs, my turn ons, and turn offs. I prefer to date women who know these things about themselves as well. This is a result of dating, introspection, and honest soul-searching.
Side 2: You don’t know yourself, so you’re dating to figure it out.
Great, fine, fantastic, acceptable, blah blah blah. There’s nothing wrong with this, but be open about it, be up front about it, and figure out your criteria as you go. Search your soul, look deep within, be honest with yourself, and GO HAVE FUN.
Both sides of that coin require one common thing: Know yourself. Until you know yourself, you’ll always have trouble.