Simple system

Simple is always the best way to get things done, and it’s the driving force behind my system. In 3 little steps, we figure out whether or not we’re going to meet in person, and from there we’re smack dab in the middle of the regular dating world. Oh joy. 😛

In each of these steps, i’m looking for clear answers, and if I can’t determine for myself whether or not I have your deal-breakers, or if I meet your criteria, then i’m going to err on the side of caution and move along, since asking for clarification always leads to me getting lectured/yelled at/called names/insulted. Yes, females can be vicious, judgmental, and difficult. No, it doesn’t stop me from dating. Yes, it speeds up the sorting process.

Step 1: Deal-breakers. If you have any of my deal-breakers, we’re done. If I have any of your deal-breakers, we’re done. If neither of us has any of the others’ deal-breakers, then we move on to step 2.

Step 2: Criteria to meet. In order for me to want to meet you, you have to have all of my criteria to meet. I expect the same from her, so if we both meet each others’ criteria to meet, AND she wants to meet, we’re on to step 3. Yes, i’ll need a clear yes or no for this step, too.

Step 3: This is where the rubber meets the road (yes, that’s an awesome pun, thanks for noticing!). All we’re doing is setting up a place and time to meet, so if this becomes some ridiculous/difficult/time-consuming ordeal, that’s a sign to me that we don’t need to meet. If she decides to insult/berate/lecture/bash me, then we’re definitely done!

Winter weather water ways

Lots of talk about heated hoses, freezing water, and how to camp when it’s cold outside, so let me share a little about my setup.

I’m in GA now, without a heated hose, and here’s my system:
1) I’ve got two electric space heaters inside, both energy efficient, and both set to keep it around 62-65° inside, which is comfy for me in sweats.
2) I have the furnace set to 55°, so anytime it’s too cold for the space heaters to keep up, the furnace kicks in, which also keeps the belly warm.
3) I keep my freshwater tank no more than 3/4 full so I have water on board if I need to disconnect from the park, but with enough room for expansion if it were to happen.
4) If the weather is going to be 30° or less for more than four hours overnight, then i’ll go disconnect and drain my exterior hose after my shower, but before bed.

Remember that water starts to freeze at 32°F, BUT, that doesn’t mean all of the water inside a tank, or even a hose, will freeze at once.

Also, anytime your FURNACE is on, you’re heating the living area AND the under belly, which includes the tanks. This means, in theory, you could simply fill up your tank, keep the furnace on low, and live all through the winter (emptying your waste tanks and filling your fresh tank(s) as needed), but this means you’ll be using more propane (since your furnace uses the most propane of all your gas appliances).

Since I bought my TT in April of 2017, the lowest temp i’ve been in is 17°F (low for the night), and with the system called out above, I didn’t have any trouble at all! 😀

When in Rome

Looking for a husband (or wife) on Tinder is like going to McDonalds and asking for Prime Rib. You’re not going to get anything nearly that good at a place like that, and that’s not what it was designed for.

Tinder is for quick connections. Call it whatever you want, Tinder was designed to get you connected to people based on their looks. Are they cute? Super! See? Simple. By the way, that doesn’t mean anything has to happen, it just means the criteria you’re looking for is primarily (and simply) their looks.

When you’re on sites like Plenty of Fish and OkCupid are designed to make more meaningful connections, which is why there’s a lot of room for profiles, and personality quizzes. The point there is for the site to help you find matches on a deeper level.

If you’re on a site like match.com, I would expect you’re looking for a spouse, and probably not interested in dating anyone who you can’t see marrying.

The list goes on and on, but they all have one thing in common:
YOU HAVE TO MEET PEOPLE. Meeting online doesn’t count, meeting in person does. I know for me, until i’ve met you in person, you’re just another username, another picture, another something that may or may not pan out.

Now, I don’t let my experience in ‘online dating’ completely drive how I do things, but i’d have to be stupid to ignore the trends, and one of those trends is that most females here in the SouthEast are asking for way more than they’re willing to give, and most them don’t even know what they want, so they can’t tell the guys what they want. In the same vein as, “she’s crazy”, I hear a lot of females saying, “He can’t carry a conversation”, or, “He just wants sex”, when in reality, you’re boring, and apparently conceited.

In order for online dating to be useful, you’ve got to get out and MEET people. Online dating is just another way to MEET, just like your friend setting up up with someone from work, going to a bar, or volunteering in your community, online dating is designed to help you meet new people.

So, figure out what you want (start with your Deal Breakers, then figure out your criteria to meet, then chill out and meet people), then go get it! 😀

Ding!

One of the gifts I gave myself this Christmas was turning off notifications for dating apps. What a gift! I’m no longer rushed to respond to a match or a message, i’m no longer pressured to hurry up and get it done so I can move on to something else, and i’m no longer apparently angry in my messages (well, mostly!).

By turning all the notifications off, I flipped the tables, and now I ‘seek’ when I want to, when I have time to, when i’ve got other stuff done and off my mind so I can focus on one thing at a time. It’s awesome, and if you haven’t already, I highly suggest you try it for a week! 😀

Sort, sort, sort!

I made a list, I check it twice, and I sort, sort, sort!
I know, some people want to find a reason to be offended, but you know what? If a female is offended because i’m logical, efficient, and systematic (just like it says in my profile!), then she’s easy to sort!

I approach dating the same way I approach sales; i’m not here to sell you the product, i’m just here to sort potential buyers. In this case, either you want to meet, or you don’t, and it’s really that simple.

So, if you got sorted into ‘no’ and you’re mad about it, #sorrynotsorry, because if something that small makes you mad, then you probably won’t make it past a week with me before you hate.

See? Real talk. Next! 😀

It’s a dogs life

I know, I know, i’ve been all hit-and-miss with the personal posts on my blog, and i’m sure some of you are saying, “Dude. It’s a BLOG. Where’s the LOG part of that?!?!”. Others just watched that joke go right by them without even slowing down. It’s cool, i’m selectively funny.

Anywho, i’ve been wanting a dog for a long time. I had a dog of my own as a kid in Georgia, and i’ve rescued/fostered/housed/dogsat a bunch of dogs along the way in life, but i haven’t had a dog of my own in many years. Well, meet Scout.

I adopted her 29DEC from the Humane society, and she’s part of my recovery team (i’ll get more into the injury and recovery stuff in other posts). So far, she’s doing a splendid job!

Now for the cliffhanger; if you’re not on my Facebook, you’ll have to stay tuned for more posts here. 🙂

Spare room for spare parts?

Do you carry spare parts in your RV? Well, you should. Let’s talk about why, and what parts you should have readily available.

The spare parts you carry will vary on a number of factors, like if you’re in a motorhome, or towing a trailer, what level of mechanical comfort you have, or the age and type of vehicle you’re in. People can do anything they put their mind to, and with blogs (like mine!) youtube, Facebook groups, and other self-help information readily available, anything is possible.

Coach:
Whether you’re in a motorhome of some kind, or towing a trailer, the area you live in is known as the coach, and you should carry a spare anything that’s essential to comfortable living. This will vary, but here’s some stuff I carry:
Spare fuses for the breaker panel (DC) so I can replace them if they blow. Small, inexpensive, and super easy to do, make sure you get the right size(s) you need, as well as an assortment of various amperage ratings.
Spare bulbs, for both inside and outside. I want to see, and be seen, so pull a couple of bulbs out, write down the numbers on them, or take them to your local auto parts store (I’m a big fan of AutoZone!) to pick up some spares. Most of the lights inside will be the same bulb, but make sure you check them all just to know what you’re up against.
Spare shower faucet. If i’m doing some kind of road-side repair, or I get stuck somewhere, my shower is the ONE faucet I will have to have. No matter how big or small the mess is, I can clean it off of me with the shower faucet, and carry on being a happy camper, even if i’m stuck in the middle of nowhere.
Water pump. I cannot stress this enough; if you’re out camping without hookups (or with hookups, and the park water is turned off for any reason) your water pump is invaluable! Of course, it means nothing to until it stops working… CARRY A SPARE! Also, don’t throw the old one away right away, a lot of them can be rebuilt for much less than buying a new one.
Water hose. Carry a spare water hose, in addition to your usual clean and gray water hoses, just in case. If your primary hose breaks and you need water in your RV, you’ll thank me for having a spare hose.
Pressure regulator. You should have one of these with a gauge so you can see what the pressure is, and adjust it if you want to. For a spare, carry one without a gauge, just in case. There’s nothing worse than pulling into a park, looking forward to a nice long shower, and finding out you’ll need a regulator to bring their 80 PSI water supply down to your rig’s max of 55 (except for not knowing, and blowing out a water line or fitting!).
Sewer connection. Carry a spare hose, a spare connection for each end, and two spare hose clamps. Even if it’s just a cheap 10′ hose, it’s still better than no hose when yours breaks, or worse, when you forgot to stow it before you left the park this morning… 400 miles ago.

 

For your tow rig (or motorhome chassis), I suggest:
Spare fan belt. Even on a brand new rig, some piece of highway debris can get kicked up, put a slice in your belt, and then POOF! you’re stranded because of a belt. Yes, I know, pantyhose work in a pinch, but a spare belt is way better, and works every time. Make sure to carry the tool(s) you need to change it, and learn how to change it by doing it twice. Yes, twice.
Fuses and bulbs. Just like in the coach, fuses and bulbs can be lifesavers on the road; see and be seen!
Tape. One roll each of electrical, gorilla, and flex seal just to cover all the bases. You might be amazed at what you can do with these!
Spare fluids for older vehicle are always good to have; oil, trans fluid, coolant, and washer fluid are all good things to have on hand, and can even be helpful in a newer vehicle if you run into minor issues on the road.
Zip ties. Yes, zip ties. Buy a small assortment pack, put them in your ‘uh-oh’ box, and hope you never need them. When things go sideways and you need to hold that thingy right there so it won’t rub on the doo hickey, zip tie it.

 

There’s always more stuff to think about, but the key idea is to carry a small amount of a variety of stuff so you can craft something that’ll get you to the next safe place when things go sideways. Other than the fan belt, don’t worry about getting the best, the most expensive, or the exact right one, just have some stuff that will get the job done, and remember; i’m only an email away 😉

W&M 3, How much can I tow?

I see this question often, and my standard reply is always, “Check your owners manual!”. While that’s the best place to start, let’s take a little trip deeper down that rabbit hole.

In “Weights and Measures 1: What’s it all mean?” we talked about all the different terms and basics we need. (If you skipped that, you may want to revisit it before falling down this rabbit hole).

So let’s say I have a nice pickup truck as my towing rig, and it’ll tow 15,000 lbs in a bumper pull configuration, or 18,000 lbs in a fifth-wheel or gooseneck configuration (more about towing types).
Great, so now I know my maximum towing weights? We can go now, right? Well, hold on a second, let’s talk about what we’re towing!
Let’s say i’ve got a 32′ Travel Trailer with a GVWR of 11,000 lbs, and it’s a bumper pull (I really do!). Ok, what else do I need to know?!?!

Well, in bumper pull configuration, my truck will tow (note the difference between towing and pulling!) 15,000 lbs, so that part’s all good!

The next part I want to look at is the tongue weight. Tongue weight is most crucial in the “Control” category of towing. If you have too much tongue weight, you’ll have a saggy rear end on your tow vehicle, and you’ll have less steering control up front. Too little tongue weight, and you’ll suffer from ‘fishtailing’ of the trailer, as well as potential slipping of the drive wheels on the a RWD vehicle.
Check out this link for lots more info on tongue weight.

I always tell people to never exceed the manufacturers tow rating because the people that designed it know the people who built it, the people that wrote the book about it, and the people that did the math to know when it’ll break. Don’t break your rig.

Once you’re all loaded and set, go get yourself a Non-Commercial Weigh so you know what you tow before you go! 🙂

Here I go, off to tow!

Quick note about towing versus pulling:

Just because your rig can PULL it doesn’t mean it can TOW it.
Towing generally refers to CONTROLLING a trailer, so it’s not just about getting it going, it’s also about slowing it, turning it, moving it around, and stopping it.
Why does this matter? Because if you can’t control what you’re towing, then you’re not towing, you’re pulling a collision looking for a place to happen.

#don’tbethatguy

 

W&M 2: Motorhome Math

If you’re in a motorhome, and not towing, then you’ve got very little to worry about. Let’s say you have a class A diesel pusher with a GVWR of 40,000 lbs, and it’s dry weight is 35,000 lbs. That means you have 5,000 lbs of weight capacity that you can add to this motorhome in fuel, water, stuff, people, pets, goodies, gizmos, gadgets… you know, ‘stuff’. 🙂 Seems like way more than enough, right?!

So let’s do some math:
If we fill up our 100 gallon fuel tank with diesel at 7 lbs/gallon (link), that’s 700 lbs.
Now we fill up our 100 gallon freshwater tank, at 8.5 lbs/gallon, that’s 850 lbs.
We also need to fill our propane tank, which is 40 gallons, and at 4.2 lbs/gallon that’s 168 lbs.
Now we bring aboard our camp chairs and table, our clothes, our food, our canopy, and all the other stuff we want to take with us to make life on the road more comfortable, so let’s say all of that is 2,000 lbs. I know, seems like a lot, but if you start weighing stuff, especially tools and spare parts, you’ll find it all adds up very quickly!
So, let’s add up all that stuff:
Fuel: 700 lbs
Fresh Water: 850 lbs
Propane: 168 lbs
Stuff: 2,000 lbs
Now we’re up to 3,718 lbs of stuff! We’re left with 1,282 lbs of ‘weight space’ left over, which means we can add more stuff! WooHoo! Time to break out the Ham radio gear! 😉

You don’t have to weigh every single item on board, but here’s what I suggest:
Fill up your rig with everything you want and need, then go get a Non Commercial weigh.
Once you know what your rig weighs fully loaded, you can see for yourself how much room you have, or how much you need to take off.