On the road again…

Well, back on the road it is! The park here closes today for the winter, and there’s nothing they’ll let me do to extend my stay, so i’m headed south.

I’m doing a little better, and planning to stop in Jersey City so I can visit Manhattan again while i’m in the area.

I’m sure to get plenty of walking in! 😀

Conversation

I’ve been over some of this before, but it bears repeating.

If you want to have conversation with me, COME MEET ME. If you’re not willing to meet me, then we’re not having conversation. Yes, it really is that simple.

The entire point of having conversation is to get to know someone, and I like to do that in person. So do strong, independant, classy women, which, you may recall, are the kind of women I like to date. See how that works?

I get that you want to “get to know me”, and that’s great, but i’m not interested in ‘chatting’ or ‘texting’ with no purpose. Until i’ve met you, there’s no purpose; you’re just another random person on the internet who may, or may not, be willing to invest a little time and energy in meeting.

So, if you like what you see, come spend some time with me. 🙂

Yes, I will accept a phone call in between chatting and meeting. 🙂

Difficulty

It seems that most people see dating as difficult. It’s not, but, as with most things involving people, people make it more difficult than it needs to be.

I set out long ago to make life as simple as possible. Some of the things I do to make things simple are for daily life, like always putting my stuff back where it belongs, having a specific place where stuff goes (keys, wallet, phone, so on), always plugging my phones in at night to charge, having extra chargers in my go bag, having a go bag, and on and on and on.

Specifically with dating, I set out to make things simple, and i’ve done so by figuring out the following:

1) Dealbreakers: These are things that I simply will not tolerate from anyone I CHOOSE to spend my time with (time is a precious thing, see my entry about it), and nothing you say or do will change that.

2) What I want: This is what I expect to get out of dating. I want to share my time with other people in an enjoyable manner, whether it be conversation, exploring, learning, teaching, helping, or a wide range of other things.

3) The kind of woman I want to attract: This is very important to consider, from either side. I want my next girlfriend to be smart, classy, and a little sassy. She’s strong, capable, independant, and has her own life going on; she doesn’t NEED me, she WANTS me. In order to attract that kind of woman, I focus on what kind of man that woman would be attracted to, and I work every day to be a little bit better than who I was yesterday, keeping my focus on that man I want to become.

4) Signs: Everywhere you look, there are signs. You could call them flags, or clues, or hints, but the idea is all the same; they’re indicators of behavior you like, or don’t like. I don’t like people who makes things more difficult than they need to be. I have to tolerate people like this in my daily life, and I do so because it’s part of being an adult, but it’s not something I CHOOSE to spend my time on. That being said, if you make things more difficult than they need to be, I know i’m not going to enjoy my time with you, and it’s best for me to be along my merry way.

Dating is fun, adventuresome, and engaging, if you let it be. If you think dating sucks, i’ll be glad to show you the problem; it’s in your mirror. 🙂

Time

Time is a precious resource. We are given so much of it (we all have the same 24 hours in a day!), but only so much, and how you spend it will determine your return on it.

I’m very protective of my time, especially the time I get to allocate 100% myself (time outside of work or other obligations), partly because i’m an introvert, and partly because I yearn for so much more than the world has shown me so far. I firmly believe that i’m just barely scratching the surface of my own potential, and I know i’ve seen so little of the world around me, and both of those things drive me to do more, do better, and do both more efficiently.

Part of me being protective of my time is being picky with whom I spend my time on. Like any other currency, I want the best value for my dollar, but sometimes you have to buy a sample to see what the product is like. That’s the point behind the coffee shop meeting; we meet, we talk, we laugh, we decide if we’re interested in going further. See? Simple.

What a pain in the…

So here I am, my third day in a row off thanks to the back injury, and it’s really annoying. I don’t know what it is, but I know it hurts, and I don’t want it. :/

Here’s hoping this gets wrapped up quickly!